Meet Mel Robbins. Fifteen years ago, her crippling anxiety made it difficult to even get out of bed in the morning. She was terrified that her relationships with everyone she loved and anything she had accomplished in her life were crumbling. Today, she’s the author of numerous best-selling print and audio books, the creator of motivational videos with billions of views, the host of the number-one educational podcast in the world, and a CNN commentator and analyst. In How to Break the Habit of Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence, Mel describes exactly how she regained control of her life—and how you can do it, too.
How to Break the Habit of Self-Doubt and Build Real Confidence
Mel Robbins is the most booked female speaker in the world, a serial entrepreneur, and a best-selling author. She’s also a CNN legal analyst and opinion columnist, a Dr. Oz Healthline Expert, a SUCCESS Magazine Contributing Editor, and one of the most popular TEDx speakers of all time.
01: Class Introduction
Meet Mel Robbins—a New York Times best-selling author; host of the number-one education podcast in the world, The Mel Robbins Podcast; and one of the most widely booked speakers and podcast guests in the world. In this lecture, you’ll learn about Mel’s history of anxiety and self-doubt and watch her in action as she begins to share her tools for a productive, fulfilled life with individual class students.
02: The Unique Challenge of Being a Creator
Discover one of the most profound truths about your feelings—You cannot control them. But if you can’t control your feelings, can you control any aspect of your life? Can you build the life you want? Absolutely. Learn how to identify whether your feelings are serving you, the liberating steps you can take in response, and the particular challenges of being a creator.
03: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
If you suffer from imposter syndrome—the feeling that you’re faking your way through your accomplishments and will be called out on it—you’re not alone. Your course expert suffered with imposter syndrome when she gave what is now one of the most-watched TEDx talks in history. Learn the specific steps you can use to move from imposter syndrome into the power of confidence.
04: The Myths and Truth about Confidence
You know your business and your life would be better if you just had more confidence in yourself—confidence to make that phone call or send that email, confidence to explain what your work is and why someone should pay you for it. But before you can diminish your self-doubt and increase your confidence, you’ll be surprised to discover exactly what confidence is, and what it is not.
05: How to Develop Self-Confidence
Now that you know confidence is a skill and not a character trait, how do you build that particular skill? Learn about the “Confidence Competency Loop” and how you can put it into action in your life. You might be shocked to discover the relationship between your mindset, your thoughts, and your actions when it comes to building self-confidence. What really matters?
06: The 5 Second Rule
One of the most life-changing strategies you will learn in this course is the “5 Second” rule. When our lives are not heading in the direction of our dreams, we tend to use those five seconds to ruminate on our problems. Discover the difference five seconds can make when you use that time to take action in a new direction—action that will create your new mindset.
07: What Is Self-Doubt?
Most of us know how self-doubt feels: our stomach is churning, we’re sweating, our heart rate is up. But you’ll certainly be surprised to learn what self-doubt is. Self-doubt is a learned behavior—not a fatal character flaw or an inherited personality trait. You were not born with self-doubt; you learned it. Most important, if this is a learned behavior, could you learn a different behavior instead?
08: Self-Doubt Anxiety Has Plagued Creatives Forever
If you want to build a business based on your creative talents, it is completely normal to have some self-doubt. In fact, you’ll be in the amazing company of Michelangelo, Stephen King, and Lin Manuel Miranda. Discover their fascinating paths from self-doubt to success. Just like you, they learned how to stop focusing on the triggers of self-doubt and move into new behaviors.
09: Self-Doubt Symptoms
Learn about the four traps of self-doubt: hesitating, hiding, being hypercritical, and helpless. Explore how these traps became your behaviors of habit. And although we don’t see ourselves creating those behaviors, that is exactly what happened. Learn why your expert says, “If your problem can be solved with action, you don't have a problem.”
10: What Causes Hesitation?
Explore the first thing that happens to all of us when self-doubt raises its head: We hesitate. Learn why we hesitate, and how that plays into our overall habits related to self-doubt. Discover what you might be afraid of, what you’re waiting for—this fear and need for validation that causes you to hesitate—and what actions you could employ, instead.
11: Avoidance Coping
Self-doubt causes us to hide—to avoid people, meetings, phone calls, emails. We’re afraid that if we put ourselves and our ideas out there, we’ll face rejection. Our inner critic and our feelings of imposter syndrome tell us we just can’t risk that. But as Mel explains, even Picasso painted 500 failures for every masterpiece. Watch as she helps a class member recognize the hiding trap in the class member’s business and how to learn to overcome it.
12: Hypercritical Personality
If you’ve been wounded at something, you might be so afraid by past failure that you become an expert at constantly pointing out the flaws in every new idea you have. Mel recognizes this pattern of obstacle thinking because she had fallen into it herself. Discover how she learned to become the type of person who focuses on opportunity and identifying what just might go right.
13: Overcoming Learned Helplessness
If you learned to be an insecure person with low self-worth, you might also have learned to play the victim when you are in your own self-doubt cycle. Discover why none of these “negative” labels is actually bad. What could they mean instead? And how can you understand them well enough to turn them around to build momentum in the direction you want to move?
14: The Connection between Anxiety and Self-Doubt
Explore the relationships between doubt, worry, anxiety, and panic. Just like self-doubt, worrying is a habit you can change. If left unchecked, you’ll feel physical symptoms in your body—anxiety that can lead to panic. Learn how to develop your own predetermined anchor thoughts for any situation that triggers your nerves. Mel explains how she does this herself.
15: Student Coaching Session
In this fascinating live coaching session, Mel answers specific questions from the class participants. Among other concerns, you’ll hear how she helps her students learn how to raise their business prices, how to answer clients who ask for free services, and how to get out of negative thinking patterns.
16: The 5 Habits of Building Self-Confidence
Learn the very simple five rules for building confidence—rules your expert lives by every day. Discover the science behind these very simple actions, which can help you change your life from one of self-doubt to one of confidence. These are the habits that will help you take charge of your personal and business relationships, creating positive momentum in the direction you want to go.